Never too late to say that #GayIsOkay

Being half a gay, Lush’s #GayisOk campaign struck a peculiar interest with me. By half a gay, I mean broadly, bisexual, however I do sort of struggle with labelling my sexuality. Lush’s Gay is Okay campaign is raising money for grassroots LGBT rights groups and their struggle for human rights all around the world. The entirety of the profits from buying a bar of oh-so-sparkly #GayisOk soap go towards these groups. But I thought I would use this opportunity to talk about my thoughts on sexuality as well. Gay is Okay, Lush cosmetics, UK, Bloggers,

This soap smells of strong roses and lemongrass. It smells very much so, like a Lush product. The sparkly glittiriness will attach itself to your bathtub and your parents will wonder why there is glitter all over it. In which you can use it as an opportunity to come out to your parents as gay. But in all seriousness, it’s an great soap with an even greater message.

For the life of me, I will never understand why people are so obsessed with what other people do with their genitals I’m going to be honest. But ultimately, homophobia is a thing and it’s a thing sparked by fear of the sparkly militant homosexuals (*sarcasm) But essentially, homophobic views do spark out of a fear. They spark out of a fear of complete and utter freedom, how they do not understand how somebody could have those feelings for somebody of the same sex. How somebody could act on these ‘bizarre’ feelings for another person of the same gender.

Labels exist historically because of nosey people that think they have some business in what you do with your genitals. Therefore you have to explain and explain it. Now don’t get me wrong, I think labels can be a great thing for some individuals. They help them to understand themselves more, look up more information on what they are feeling like, and reduce the level of chaos going on in your head when you are confused.

Personally for me, I struggle with labels, as everybody and their mum seems to question the legitimacy of bisexuality and ‘how can you be bisexual if you’re with a man?!’ Well it swings both ways, that’s kind of the point you know. It honestly depends on the circumstances I am in. It doesn’t mean that I’m attracted to EVERYONE and that I’m suddenly going to go on a rampant STD binge. It’s just… I like both you know?

Let me know your thoughts! And holla at me with #GayisOk!

E x

4 comments so far.
  • You don’t need to label yourself, is someone directly asks you your sexuality then there probably a bit of an arse. These things don’t matter.
    That soap however is brilliant and the message behind it even more so!
    Great post, you should feel great about yourself for this one.

    http://www.hollypopdoesbeauty.wordpress.com xxx

    • Thanks for the comment! It’s sad that what somebody does with their genitalia becomes people’s business urgh.
      E xxx

  • It seems to me that more and more people find themselves struggling with labels and the bisexual one in particular… and it makes me scratch my head because there’s no reason to get bent out of shape about it. Is it annoying when folks who aren’t bisexual question you about it – and then asking questions that were ancient when I first heard them five decades ago? Yeah, it is… but they clearly don’t understand and maybe it’s me but I don’t have the patience to correct someone’s unflagging ignorance when it comes to being bisexual. Yep, I’m bisexual and with a woman and, yes, when I was with a man, I was still bisexual – what part of this don’t you understand?

    Labels are like words: Used properly, they’re a good thing… but the people who use them improperly do so because, um, they don’t know what it’s like to be bisexual and I find that a lot of these same people don’t know what it’s like to be whatever sexuality they are; yeah, they tend to judge us by their inadequate standards so when they start flinging the bisexual label around, they not only never use it properly but see reason to use it as a stick to beat us with because we’re neither straight nor gay.

    People are just naturally nosy so I’m no longer surprised that so many peole are suddenly interested in who you might be sleeping with and other things that’s none of their damned business – but, eh, we can’t help it – it’s just the way we are. At the same time, we also tend to not like anything or anyone who is different from what we are and it’s a behavior that we’ve yet to outgrow so you get straight folks who are hating on anyone who isn’t straight, gay folks hating on anyone who isn’t gay – and us poor bisexuals are caught in the middle of this craziness.

    You just learn to take note of it… then pretty much ignore it and go on about the business of living your life the way YOU want to.

    • Thank you for the fantastic comment/response. Really enjoyed reading it 🙂
      E x

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