This Modern Love – Millennial Modern Dating

Modern Love is exhilarating, terrifying and exhausting all at the same time. And the book This Modern Love kind of sums it all up. I’ve recently started dating for the first time, having previously only having relationships with previous friends. (FYI I much prefer it that way, it’s a lot easier). And honestly I’m having a lot of (slightly frustrating) fun.

The book compiles 15000 love letters talking about the beginning, middle or end of previous relationships. They’re all wonderfully unique.

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When you say that you’re single or dating, I don’t know about you, but sometimes it feels like there’s a look of pity from the other end. I’m getting this increasingly as I’m getting older. I get asked if I’ll eventually get back with significant exes. Even though, I’m at my happiest now, being alone and single. Yes I might get in a relationship, but then again I might not for quite sometime.

It’s no secret that I wear my ‘heart on my sleeve’, being incredibly open and direct about everything. It’s something I simultaneously love and hate about my personality. I tend to care about people that honestly couldn’t give a crap about me. This Modern Love made me quite emotional in a sense, because I actually realised that having that sort of trait is quite normal.

Modern dating is kind of characterising by everyone knowing everything about everyone. There’s easy access to people’s Twitter, Facebook and Instagram accounts. I’ve had people contact me via all three, some when I’ve already previously rejected them. It’s very strange and honestly there’s a sort of comfort in the fact that people can be as hopelessly romantic as me. (Obviously I don’t contact people that’ve rejected me, that’s weird please don’t do that).

You learn so much about yourself with dating, things I can’t even describe and I’m having quite the blast. Who f’in knows what’s around the corner for me?

I love a good coffee table book as much as anyone and This Modern Love fits quite nicely onto mine. Will Darbyshire also runs a quite popular YouTube channel which you can find here.

2 comments so far.
  • I have been wanting to read this book since it got released. Unfortunately, it hasnt been released in my country yet… I’m a hopeless romantic myself; I love reading those short love captions that get featured in Humans Of New York and I think this book is a much bigger version of it. Can’t wait to read it!

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  • This modern love…I know it all to well. But do millennials still “fall in love” after all the hanging out or hooking up?


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