Let’s get real on loneliness

“The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.”

Nobody seems to talk about loneliness, but I can guarantee you most people have experienced it. Whilst I have an amazing job and things to do, I can’t escape the feeling that there are not many people to share it with. In honesty, loneliness has subsided since I’ve gotten a job, but having no friends in your local area does suck. It’s no secret that I didn’t work with university life; I just didn’t have fun for the amount of mental strain it caused me. So in some sense, I feel like I can’t really complain.loneliness, depression, mental health, anxiety, ptsd,

When you graduate, and don’t continue on with university, it’s really fucking lonely at times. Nobody is around and all your friends are spread about the country. Thankfully, my partner who lives on the opposite side of the country, has been a rock to ground myself with. But obviously, not everybody has that or should be expected to have that.

You notice that some friendships were not actually really that important. It’s harsh, but true. When you’re at uni, there are loads of people around. When you finish uni, you realise you have a lot of acquaintances and a few friends. Plus they’re all scattered around the country. It can get so lonely for when you’re constantly around people. You have to make new friends and that does simply just take time, a couple of months you know? But everything in this day and age is so fast, god damn it we’re impatient.

The weird thing about loneliness is that there’s basically no logic to it. I felt lonely a lot at uni. I feel lonely a lot at home. It is more just a feeling, rather than who is physically around you. I seriously can’t stand it and I usually listen to podcasts or radio to make myself feel better in these situations. Thankfully, it’s not happened for a while since I’ve started working full-time.

E x

2 comments so far.
  • Tori

    I know exactly what you mean. I met some lifelong friends at university which is lovely but also lots of acquaintances. I had to rebuild a life for me in my home when I left university. Definitely no logic to loneliness either. I can be lonely at a party full of people I know and love…or perfectly content all by myself.

    • Yep pretty much. It’s so frustrating! There’s just no logic to it. Think a lot of people grow apart after uni as well. E x